Mom Wars: 25 Ways to Make Things Better - Page 3

TRY TO UNDERSTAND WHERE YOUR MOM’S COMING FROM

10. Realize that she’s concerned about your safety and well-being. As a parent, your mom will always be concerned about your well-being. When you have plans to go out with friends, give her your game plan. Tell her who will be with you, where you’ll be and when she can expect you home.

11. Understand that a lot of what the two of you are going through now is new for your mom too. When you were younger, your relationship with your mom involved more of a parent/child dynamic. Now that you’re older, your mom’s having to adjust to the fact that you’re becoming your own person.

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12. Homework. You want to go out with your girlfriends after school or watch your favorite afternoon soap, and your mom asks the inevitable, “When are you planning to do your homework?” Rather than being vague and responding with “Later”, explain your plan—“I’ll be home at 6, and I plan to read two chapters before dinner.” Or, “I have study hall tomorrow morning, and that’s when I plan to get it done.”

13. Grades. If your mom seems overly concerned about your grades, discuss with her what her idea of an acceptable grade is. If you’re getting good grades, reassure her that you’re doing fine in your classes. If your grades aren’t that great, consider why. Are you motivated? Are you studying hard enough? Do you have trouble understanding the subject matter? Keep her posted, and she’s less likely to pester!

14. Your room. If neatness is an issue, ask if it’s okay to keep your mess confined to your room. Promise that you won’t leave your stuff around the rest of the house.

15. Chores. To keep your mom mellow, create a chart that shows what you need to do and when you expect to have it done. Keep track of your tasks, and she’ll see that you're committed to completing your chores.