Mom Wars: 25 Ways to Make Things Better

Even the best mother/daughter relationships can become strained...

Yes, you love your mom, but lately everything she does makes you want to scream! Before you lose your cool, take a deep breath and follow these tips!

COMMUNICATE

1. Build a positive relationship. Suggest and plan family activities, and do fun things together. This’ll make it easier to deal with your mom when you’re not seeing eye-to-eye. Both of you are more likely to settle your differences if you don’t see each other as “the enemy.”

2. Take a problem-solving approach to conflicts. Try to negotiate a solution both of you can live with, and avoid thinking in terms of a winner and a loser. Don’t operate with an all-or-nothing outlook. If she says no to your request to go to a late show at the movies, consider an earlier show.

3. Don’t say, “My friends can, why can’t I?” Instead, negotiate more on the merits of your own behavior. Show your mom you’ve earned certain privileges.

4. Be aware of what you’re saying—and how you’re saying it. Instead of “You never let me…”, approach her with an “I” statement, like “I’d like to…” You’ll come across less whiny and more responsible.

5. Treat your mom with respect. No matter how frustrated you become with her, avoid name-calling and cruel behavior. Below-the-belt tactics won’t help in improving your relationship with her.