Dear M.S.: Lots of girls get crushes on musicians or other guys in the spotlight. They seem larger than life, and it's easy to fantasize about getting involved with them romantically. But tough as it may be to hear, you're better off not pursuing this guy, and judging from your letter, you know why. He's too old, and he's got loads of girls who like him, so if you go after him, you could risk getting hurt. It'll be hard at first, but work on looking for guys your age to go out with-guys who can be there for you and appreciate your special qualities.