5 Ways to RUIN a Date — Page 3

2. OBSESSING ABOUT YOUR APPEARANCE

When a guy hears you badmouth the way you look, he feels trapped in a no-win situation. He knows that if he says, "Well, yeah. You could stand to lose a few pounds," he's going to upset you. And if he says, "C'mon! You look fine to me," you’ll think he's just saying that to make you feel good. So why even ASK appearance-related questions in the first place?

Probably because you're looking for some kind of reassurance from him. A hint that he finds you attractive. Or that it's your inner beauty — not your outer physique — that's won him over.

While there's nothing wrong with wanting a compliment, it's best not to fish for one. Guys get tired of hearing girls ask lame, obvious questions like, "Do you like my hair this way?" or "Does this dress look dumb?" or "Do you notice anything different about me?" It makes them think that a girl's insecure, and they don't want to feel responsible for bolstering her self-image all the time.

If a guy doesn't shower you with compliments, don't assume the worst. Just because he doesn't say nice things to you doesn't mean he doesn't think them. So rather than force the issue, look for other signs that he's interested in you.

Does he break into a big grin whenever he sees you? Does he pay attention when you talk? Does he do little things like go out of his way to walk by your locker, or call you just to tell you to turn on your TV because there's a great movie on cable? Anyone can lay the compliments on thick. But when it comes to relationships, actions speak louder than words.