5 Ways to RUIN a Date — Page 2

1. DO NOT OVERANALYZE THE RELATIONSHIP

The word relationship might roll off your tongue quite easily. But most guys freak out when they hear it. They think, Oh, no. Why does she want to go and spoil things by bringing this up?! Unlike most girls, a lot of guys feel awkward and uneasy when it comes to discussing emotional issues. Part of the problem is that they haven't had as much practice at it as girls have, so they don't feel like they're very good at it. They also often think that when a girl wants to talk about a relationship, she really means she wants to pick him apart, expose all his flaws, and make him feel like a toad. If you really feel you need to talk about the relationship, try a softer approach. Avoid issuing an order like, "We need to talk about us," which most guys find terrifying. Instead, try a more specific statement like, "For the last week or so, I’ve noticed this has been happening, and so I've been thinking this. How do you see it?" By staying low-key, you may help your guy to open up and recognize that talking about feelings doesn't have to feel weird.