Dear Fed Up: It's hard enough to listen to the details of your friends' soap opera romances. But when you feel like your advice isn't being considered, then you may feel they're using you as a sounding board. Basically, you can handle this prob two ways. You can tell your friends that you don't want to hear their boyfriend problems anymore--period. Or you can tell them that you'll listen to their complaints, but you won't offer any advice. That way, you won't feel so involved in and responsible for their problems, and you won't end up feeling so resentful when they ignore your suggestions.